“The only part of me that I was generating any energy was my professional self.”
That realization came to Monique Helstrom shortly after leaving her position as an Executive Assistant to Simon Sinek, one of the most popular authors and motivational speakers in the world.
“I was blessed to be very successful in my career,” she realizes, “but I was literally not feeding myself well and I was certainly not taking care of my spiritual side, either.”
So, what happens to a person’s goals and aspirations after walking away from their career? For Monique, it was the realization that she was only fulfilling part of her life, to the detriment of the others. The Whole Human was founded on helping recovering workaholics find their space and fill themselves out to become a whole human.
“I was blessed to be very successful in my career,” she realizes, “but I was certainly not literally feeding myself well and I was certainly not taking care of my spiritual side, either.”
What does being a whole human mean?
“It is feeding all of the different parts that you need to survive.” According to Monique, this includes not just your professional aspect of your life, but also your education and learning, creativity, and your health. It is also about cultivating your spirit – having a connection to something that isn’t just about yourself or your work.
“We all want change, but when you pare it down, we as individuals are very scared of change.”
The key, says Monique, is to break down the change you want to make into smaller steps. For example, it’s not about wanting to exercise and going full-bore. It’s about taking a small step to first do the research. Then it’s about paring some time to try some things out.
“Every day, turn that dial,” recommends Monique. “What is the next best thing that you can do – that you have control over – that makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something?”
“Every day, turn that dial”
Control over stress is another huge factor of becoming a whole human. Monique recommends that instead of just relieving stress, people should identify what’s causing the stress. When you are feeling uncomfortable, instead of just doing yoga or grabbing a glass of wine, you can grab a journal and start thinking about what is the underlying issue.
The important thing however, is to deal with the stressors head on.
“If you try to avoid stress, pain, and fear, what is that doing to your joy? Ignoring it causes you to experience less joy.”